This section of the website is certainly interlinked with the section devoted to the care system,
which offers some insight into my childhood. As stated within that particular
section contact with my family members was (to some degree) maintained intermittently throughout
my childhood years - although
it was not until I reached adulthood that I was able to fully develop familial relationships and begin to understand the dynamics within my biological family unit.....
When I look at my family I am in no doubt that a television
series/soap could be made and rolled out as prime time viewing! I am guessing we could all say that! to varying degrees. Perhaps the
best analogy of the family are the characters from the Channel
4 TV series Shameless - and just like those characters many of my family
are certainly a highly dysfunctional bunch - but would I change that - nah...
"And so for the lead in. After leaving my
foster parents at sixteen years of age I was placed in what can
only be described as a halfway house - a home owned by a single
(late) middle aged woman who provided rooms and meals for young people.
This was all new to me - living on my own and yet at times I felt
quite isolated, and found myself visiting my foster parents frequently.
This lasted for approximately twelve months, as I had a college
course to complete. During that time however I established contact
with my biological mother and would often stay at her home over the weekend.
My sister, who was by this time resident at another children's home,
would also meet me regularly and the bond we had established during
our early childhood was at that time being rebuilt. At the age of seventeen I
was also made aware that I had an older (half) brother, and that he was
resident in the same town with a partner and two children. My biological father, who had flitted in and out of my life, again appeared on the scene - and with added complications of two half siblings this
was indeed twelve months in which contact with my biological family/extended family
was truly established......
I would add that whilst staying in this 'halfway
house' the female homeowner was involved in some for of religious
'sect.' I would often see strange people visit the house and praying/meetings
would take place regularly. When I reflect upon that time I am
sure that the group had decided to attempt to persuade me to join
them, and that they had chosen one particular male to engage me.
He would often attempt to converse with me about everyday issues,
and when I brought my first motorbike he would often assist when
tinkering with it. They seemed quite harmless although I felt an
uneasy, almost sinister undertone (maybe that's just my paranoia). To cut a long story short I left
this house after completing my college education, and as I was still
subject to a care order the social services had to approve my next
proposed address - my mothers home (I still remember my first day back there and its a day I would like to live over again!). The set up allowed me to reside
with my mother, her partner (a coalman) and my younger half sister, whilst at
the same time being closer to my (half) brother, sister, father and grandparents - as well as a whole new life.....
I have also used this section to look at significant relationships, past and present, as well as friendships and my experiences of being a father to (currently) two beautiful, amazing children - afterall these are what shape us into who we really are. I have so many good and some (perhaps not so good) memories, particularly of friendships and relationships, and I am thankful that I have been gifted with the greatest thing anyone could ever seek to achieve in life - my own family. Please enter the vault at the top of the page......